If your boyfriend cheated on you: first of all, I’m sorry. I’ve been cheated on before and it sucks. And that’s why I want to write this post… and hopefully help others rebuild self-esteem after breakup. When I was 14, my dad cheated on my mom, and then my first boyfriend ever cheated on me. Between those two experiences I had a pretty sorry impression of myself AND men. I grew up assuming all men cheated, and I lived my life in fear of being abandoned in every relationship I was in for a long time. As you can imagine…this thinking didn’t result in a ton of awesome relationships. Many…
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How to Be More Confident // 5 Tips For Anyone
It’s easy to live my life comparing myself to other people, which is why, for me, “how to be more confident” is top of mind. Maybe you can relate. “Her thighs are thinner than mine.” “I’m not as smart as him.” “I’m not as talented as her.” “People don’t like me as much as they like…” When I don’t consciously STOP and think, my mind can get flooded by insecure thoughts and fears. But I’ve realized, especially recently, that I have a lot to be confident about. I’m creative, a fabulous singer, I pick up new tasks quickly, I follow instructions well, I like to make people happy and I…
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How to Do Things You Hate To Do // Work + School
Everyone has moments at work or school where they feel unmotivated, annoyed or blocked—I’ve been there too. And if you’re feeling stuck, it can be really hard to get through the day and learn how to do things you hate to do. In this video, I give you 5 awesome tips for how to do things you don’t want to do. So, if you need help getting over a motivation-hump, try using the tips below to make your work at your job or in school more enjoyable. This is something I have a knack for, I wanted to share my silly but super practical tips with you… Ready to get…
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Why I started Drinking Again [Getting Honest…)
Hey guys! After watching the series collab between Bunny and Shane Dawson, I felt like I wanted to start making videos again. But first…I need to come clean. A lot of my videos in the past talked about why I stopped drinking and didn’t drink for 4 or 5 years. Welp, I started drinking again a a couple years ago. I know this is a polarizing topic, so I wanted to give you some background and talk about why I made the decision to stop, and why I started again. Thanks for watching and I’ll see you next week 🙂
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Whatever Things Are…Excellent? Lessons In Parental Meltdowns
Written by: Loni Capshew Whatever things are…excellent? Lessons in parental meltdowns, what advice should you follow from others, and how you will know what works. When our three offspring were growing up, Charlie and I were caught in the maelstrom of influences that bombarded our generation of new parents in the seventies. We were at the tail end of the Spock years, still bruised and battered by the Viet Nam War and inclined to be slightly militant regarding individual rights and independent regarding new ideas and distinctly suspicious regarding old ones. All this notwithstanding, when it’s your own child you’re holding in your hands and when that back-breaking responsibility suddenly…
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The Essence of Winter
By: Vanessa Cassani Everywhere I look, I can see the beauty of winter. The Autumn leaves have changed into a bouquet of colors and soon the once stuffed trees will lay empty and dormant until the first signs of Spring start to appear. Even if mother nature doesn’t deliver snow, the beauty of Winter still shines through. I love this time of year for it brings so many things to appreciate like cuddling with my children and warm winter fires. The days have become shorter and the nights are filled with refreshing, cool, crisp air. But, there is much more to Winter than just family gatherings and holiday celebrations. Many…
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Sometimes a Stitch in Time Really Does Save Nine…
By Loni Chambers Capshew Oh, not to worry! I don’t pretend to hold all of life’s greatest truths in a Dixie cup, but a lifetime of teaching adolescents and raising three of my own to adulthood has taught me a thing or two about basic human nature, and the funny thing is that I’d say 80 per cent of them are probably based on little truisms expressed by my parents when I was still wet behind the ears myself. Sheesh. That’s still painful to admit, not because I bear any latent resentment toward my parents. I don’t. Instead, it’s simply an admission that forces me to acknowledge how much pain…
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Getting Back My Peace of Mind by Letting Go a Piece of Me
By: Loni Chambers Capshew This morning I did a bit of addition and realized something I found rather astounding. This is the first time in the last 58 years that I have not been somehow involved in the rush and hullaballoo of the first day of school – as a student, as an educator, as a parent, or as a parent-surrogate. That’s a huge chunk of living and a huge chunk of my identity, a situation of which I’m made daily aware. This week I had my allergy shot, administered by, you guessed it, a former student of mine who only recently was able to bring herself to call me…
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Eating and Letting Go
So, in my last post I mentioned some changes I made that set a tonefor the beginning of 2012. One of those changes involves my nutrition. I lost 30lbs in 2004 and gained a great deal of awareness around nutrition by loosely following Weight Watchers (I never joined, but my mom had some old materials and I read a lot online). I learned that if I ate healthier, I could usually eat more. On the old Weight Watchers plan, I had 20 points a day and 30 flex points a week. I could easily eat a sandwich, salad and piece of fruit for the same amount of points. (Many times…I…
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Stop digging!
How do I know when I’ve hit bottom? I stop digging! I love my old unhealthy behaviors. They are so nice and comfy! The feel good, and it feels right to do them. The only problem is that they don’t work the same way anymore. They served me for a time to help meet a need, but I am a growing and beautiful adult woman…and some of those behaviors aren’t suiting me so much anymore. Drinking was a behavior that met a need (not in the best way mind you) but it stopped working. Whenever I am dealing with a negative behavior, I have to hit bottom before I am…
