It’s easy to live my life comparing myself to other people, which is why, for me, “how to be more confident” is top of mind. Maybe you can relate.
“Her thighs are thinner than mine.”
“I’m not as smart as him.”
“I’m not as talented as her.”
“People don’t like me as much as they like…”
When I don’t consciously STOP and think, my mind can get flooded by insecure thoughts and fears.
But I’ve realized, especially recently, that I have a lot to be confident about. I’m creative, a fabulous singer, I pick up new tasks quickly, I follow instructions well, I like to make people happy and I actually have enough life experience to genuinely help people.
^^^ That’s huge.
I truly believe these 5 tips are for everyone—s if you’re looking for tangible ways to feel more confident, then read (or watch) below.
#1: Appreciate Your Uniqueness
I possess unique skills and talents, and that matters. It’s easy to compare myself to others when there is a trend or social standard I feel pressure to comform to, but the truth is—I won’t always be able to conform to trends and social standards and that’s ok.
It’s much more relaxing for me to accept who I am and move on. My uniqueness provides value to people—it’s what makes my personality my most valuable asset, because there is no one else like me. So, I choose to embrace it whether I’m in style or now.
#2: Appreciate Your Awkwardness
One thing that helped me to be more confident was to not only embrace my uniqueness, but to embrace my awkwardness.
I’m not saying you’re awkward – maybe you’re not. But One thing I felt insecure about was that I feel awkward constantly. By embracing it as a unique and endearing part of my personality, I was able to stop feeling so insecure about it and to start embracing it as a part of who I am.
I might be awkward, but i’m also interesting. 🙂 And you are too. This has definitely helped me when learning how to be more confident.
#3: Own Both Your Strengths and Weaknesses
First of all, I’ve learned to embrace my strengths and positive qualities. Its so easy to brush off an accomplishment or compliment.
But you know what you should start doing instead?
Say THANK YOU. Take it in, breathe it in, and accept the freakin’ compliment. And compliment yourself.
Accepting my strengths makes it easier to accept my weaknesses, because I know that in my weakness, someone else’s strength can shine.
#4: Stop Being Afraid of Asking Questions
For most of my life, I pretended to always know what other people were talking about.
This presents many problems 🙂
First of all, I was frequently lost and confused. And more importantly, sometimes I was just straight up dishonest.
I’ve learned something really important…
People LIKE to talk about themselves! (for the most part). And if I’m willing to ask questions instead of pretend I know what I’m talking about, it opens up a really fun dialog I wouldn’t have otherwise.
#5: Everyone is a little weird
Lastly, I realized at some point fairly recently that most people have insecurities just like I do.
Event people I think are perfect have things about themselves they don’t like. Realizing this made me realize I’m not unique in my confidence issues—we all struggle from time to time, and its all okay.
What tips did I miss? Were these tips helpful?
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