“I” Statements and/or Hedgehogs

What is an “I” statement?

Often I hear people talking about their own personal experiences using the words “you” and “we”.

Ex: You are wrong; You are crazy; You need to; You can’t; We all need to; etc. Another way I hear “you” used is when people pause and say, “you know?” repeatedly. I may not “know”…so just keep talking and I’ll decide :o)

Using “I” statements  makes me vulnerable and transparent, and prevents the other person to whom I am relating from becoming defensive. My feelings are always about me, even if your actions were harmful to me or another person.

By using “I” statements, I simply relate my personal experience.

When someone says to me, “you need to start recycling or the planet will spontaneously com-bust”, or whatever people think will happen, that someone is making up stories about me. That someone assumes I don’t recycle. Well, I DO recycle. And now, I’m offended that this someone doesn’t think I care about the planet’s spontaneous combustion, or whatever, so its more difficult for me to hear what this someone has to say.

Does that make sense?

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