“I’m not ironing another tablecloth as long as I live.”
My mother said that the fall she turned 74. She was standing at her ironing board with a big white tablecloth over one arm.
It was her Thanksgiving tablecloth. She had ironed it before every holiday dinner for as long as I could remember. (She ironed the twelve napkins too.)
That year, her shoulders started to ache before she was halfway done. She set the iron down and sat at the kitchen table for a while.
Then she folded that tablecloth and put it in a bag for the church rummage sale. The next week, she bought a plain one that came out of the dryer smooth.
I thought she was just tired that day. Now that I’m in my 60s, I understand it better.
She wasn’t giving up on Thanksgiving. She was giving up a job that didn’t give her much back anymore.
Some things in our homes ask for a lot of care. They need polishing, ironing, watering, washing or climbing up to reach. After 70, a lot of that care just isn’t worth it.
It’s not that you can’t do it. It’s that you don’t have to.
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